The Unrequited Nature of Loss

in the temple, there is a poem called "Loss" carved in stone. She has three words, but the poet scratched out. You can not read Loss, only feel it.
~ Sayuri Narration , Memoirs of Geisha (2005 ).

the deepest mystery of life is that the loss is woven into the fabric of her deepest,. We are never touched by the sincere, but at the time of visceral pain

There is an unrealized loss of nature in which, despite our search, they discover a mysterious and enigmatic to the last as the first place. However, exit.

have to look DESPITE insignificance

The incomprehensible nature does not stop us, however. Indeed, we are grateful to search and discover the meaning of such nonsense. If you are not looking to fall in a hole, swallowing the apparent abyss of silence, which, ironically, numbs us from healing.

This further convolutes the mystery.

What needs to be searched, but can not be reconciled, it can seem bombastic thickened part of the care of God. However, the devil is after you are!

have to look for in spite of the insignificance of the loss is not so much about the discovery, or even self-discovery, but it is a process of reconstruction to -. Caterpillar becomes a butterfly within

comes to the latest ACCEPT

Truth be told, we pass through many losses and many changes throughout life. This happens whether we like it or not.

To deny the reality comes a butterfly, a caterpillar stay, the reverse trend is indelible - a desire, trapped in color wishes can not be blessed. That is, instead, cursed to death shrivelling life enshrined in custom views denial, anger, depression, and bargaining,. Even without cycling through the end of

to accept the news, but never too early, and we must willingly give up what we have, or was, the latter to recognize what our past is now gone forever.

No acceptance without realization of the

In another major shift, the loss can not ultimately be accepted without full realization that life is now changing and can not be changed back.

What is different now all I can get back what you never had.

loss is like setting the time, and that we have finally found their way to the destination, we recognize the origin of no more -. It disappeared or become something forever different

to accept a new identity - that sense of home 'to' - we have to give up important aspects of the old. It can not be anything but a process, respect for our humanity in awe of construction and will be developing our identity.

adjusting to the loss - not interchangeable phenomena - including the mystery. Nobody can tell us how to do it. There is no formula that can be followed. No, this is the search and that search will find fertile, somehow, if they do not give up.

© 2011 S. J. Wickham.